The Psychology Behind The Cuckold Fetish: How It's Caused, What It Means About You, And How To Change

There’s nothing wrong with having a fetish; they’re just sexual desires that society frowns upon, and that shouldn’t stop you if you’re happy. This book is written with that in mind, but mainly aimed at those who aren’t happy. Fetishes can cause intense feelings of shame, and can [wrongly] make people feel weird, unlovable, worthless, or less desirable. Fetishes can even prevent a healthy sex life, by overwhelming your sex drive and leave you unable to enjoy ‘normal’ sex, maybe even decreasing your normal sex drive altogether. Perhaps most of all, you may never want to be cuckolded in real life - because it stands against everything you want from your relationships! Your sexual desires are so in conflict with what you actually want, that it makes you sad, angry, or you feel like you simply need to change. If so, this book is for you. Over the years, researchers in psychology have found success in many methods of changing, reducing, or removing problematic sexual desires, and these are reviewed in this fully referenced, evidence-based self-help book. Chapter 1 explains the reason why the hurtful, painful scenario of cuckolding gets turned into sexual pleasure. Chapter 2 explains how this reason forms in your brain, as opposed to other people’s brains. Chapter 3 explores the consequences of this, and how it affects your life, and creates a self-sustaining loop that keeps it there until you change something. Chapter 4 is about how it’s affected by your childhood and other life experiences like previous relationships (especially painful ones) or being cheated on. Finally, Chapter 5 is all about everything you can do to change this. Numerous practical steps are presented to change your fetish, in both the short and the long term, from all angles in psychology including behavioral, psychodynamic, social, physiological, and humanistic. As with all of this book, significant statements are referenced and backed up with appropriate sources, which are listed at the end of the book. Experienced fetish researcher Connor McGonigal guides you through the multi-step process to understand and overcome the psychology of the cuckold fantasy, refined by years of coaching men 1-on-1, and his encyclopedic knowledge of the science in this area. With an emphasis on drawing from books, studies, and references as opposed to personal opinion and speculation, this book is an evidence-based collection of information on how to change your fetish so that you can have a normal, healthy, enjoyable sex life. You’ll learn that fetishes and kinks are caused by our deepest fears, feelings, and beliefs, and that all you have to do to change is to identify those fears, feelings, and beliefs, and change them. Fetishes can naturally come and go over the course of our lifetimes, because we change and grow as people. Sometimes, the fears and self-image that we had at one point in our lives is completely different from today, and as a result, our sexual fantasies change to match. This book is about speeding up that process - understanding the cause of the cuckold fetish, and overcoming it, so that you can reduce your arousal to it. If your cuckold fetish is preventing you from having a normal sex life, or feeling truly comfortable in a romantic relationship, or if your fetish has evolved to the point where it has become an identity that you don’t want and don’t agree with, then this book is for you. Read more